Boiler Belle

September 26, 2008

A Pilgrimage

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My long-awaited European trip is finally here. I have packed my bag (no doubt I will unpack and re-pack it because I just feel like it), I have listed down all the must-see sights in Italy, and I have brushed up on my limited Italian so that I can be seen as less of a tourist and more as someone who is genuinely interested in the country and its culture.

I can’t help but feel that this trip is coming at the right time. Some of you know that I have left my job, I have left that crazy boss of mine to deal with all th BS on her own, and I cannot be happier mentally. On the other hand, I am having this ultimate quarter life crisis where I am completely lost as to what to do for the rest of my life. I thought I did know, but when I tried to pursue things that I thought were meant for me, some barriers showed themselves up and I did not know what to do but run away from them.

I need this trip to Europe, and to spend a week or so in Italy on my own so that I can just be alone among strangers and find out who I need to be, and who I want to be. I certainly hope that among the Renaissance masterpieces I will be able to figure some things out and be inspired by the genius of these Italian maestros.

In a way, I feel like Santiago selling his sheep to make the cross to Africa, to pursue something that is so unclear and yet the certainty that the journey will change my life is there. I cannot be anymore intimidated and excited. See you in three weeks’ time.

September 24, 2008

God Does Have a Sense of Humor

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For those who know me well, you are aware of the constant logical and spiritual battle I have with the Catholic Church. I am also not shy in expressing my disagreement with the Catholic dogma, and my disapproval of the Church trying to tell us how to live our lives when historically our Popes did not even live the so-called Catholic life. You only have to open history books on Europe in the middle ages to see how many illegitimate children and lovers the leaders of the Catholic Church had. Birth control indeed!

Having said that, I think God has clearly seen and heard my disapproval and decided to give me something to think about. First, I got robbed 300 bucks for medication. Second, during the course of this medication(3 months), I cannot drink alcohol. Call me a hypocrite, but I will use my Catholic status to say this: How am I, a Catholic, supposed to survive 3 months without alcohol? Those Protestants are going to outdrink me!

Can you imagine, 3 months with no alcohol? I’m bad enough in never finishing any anti-biotics prescribed to me. Now I have to take 2 pills, twice a day, and because of these damn pills I’ll be alcohol-deprived! I can’t even remember the period in my life before alcohol came in. How will I survive?

Before anyone suggests me going to an Alcoholic Anonymous,  really, I am not an alcoholic. I just like alcohol but I’m not dependent on it, though this post may seem to contradict that. I think dinner is made extra special with a little bit of wine, and I think conversations with friends are more fun with beer around, especially if said friends are shy and inhibited and can only let loose with some alcohol in their system. Don’t worry, I won’t be saying any names here.

Now, I can be a completely naughty patient and still drink alcohol during the 3 months, but I really don’t want to put my liver in jeopardy. 3 months is nothing than the rest of my life, right? However, I will delay the start of the medication until I return from Europe. God may have made me walk into this trap, but I will not deprive myself of the Italian wines!

September 10, 2008

A Forgotten Ambition

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When I was small, I was a victim of Disney and his cartoons. However, despite Robin Hood, Sleeping Beauty and Peter Pan dominating my childhood memory, there is something that I still remember very fondly now as an adult.

I loved reading about Greek Mythology: Jason and the Argonauts, Hercules, Medusa, the Minotaur, Zeus and his wives, etc. I remember I had a book of Greek mythology stories, and I still remember how much I loved reading it over and over again. Perhaps this book was the reason I fell in love with history.

Fast forward a few years to my junior high days. I was mesmerized by Egyptian history. The pharaohs, the pyramids, the culture… I used to wish that I had been born in the 1910s so that I could become a part of one of those expedition groups who uncovered the wonders of ancient Egypt for the first time. I even wrote about the mystery behind Tutankhamun’s death for my final year exam. I chose to do History, a dreaded subject for junior high schoolers but not for me. I would rather learn about the mistakes humanity has done in the past than about how a lush rainforest is transformed into a desert, although the latter is a lot more applicable in today’s global warming days. I remember being so eager in my history class; any question asked by our teacher, my hand would shoot up, and I had this unquenchable thirst for information that I would ask outside the required information we needed to know. Don’t blame me, I was just simply satisfying my own curiousity. Unfortunately, my teacher did not see the same. She started ignoring me, picking on students who had zero interest in the subject rather than identifying THIS particular student who could very well be making a career in the field.

In the few years after junior high, I was expected to develop a career in engineering or the sciences, so history became nothing but a mere reading interest. Even then, with the amount of time required to pursue what was expected of me, I stopped reading history altogether. Then, as I was finishing up my degree at Purdue, I decided to take what I thought would be easy A classes: History of Europe in the Middle Ages and Religions of the West. Little did I know these classes would rekindle the fire I have for history. Combine a great history professor, a controversial subject (Islam, Judaism and Christianity: how can the 3 religion co-exist with each other?) and the beginning of my Robert Langdon fantasy, I started reading more and more of the European history, in particular in the Middle Ages and the Renaissance.

In preparation for my trip to Europe, I have started refreshing my memory in this field, and in doing so, I have this feeling that this trip would be followed by more pilgrimage to the Middle Ages and Renaissance sites. I may even decide to leave Singapore and spend a few months in Italy to study history altogether, and return a teacher. Some people may roll their eyes and say, “There she goes again”, but since my career is in limbo, I’m keeping my options as wide open as possible. I have always loved history, and maybe this is my chance to study and become a teacher who would appreciate her students’ love for the subject than ignoring them because what they want to know won’t be tested in the leaving examination so why bother knowing?

I suppose it’s the mystic and intrigue of history that gives it such a romantic notion to me. Wouldn’t it be exciting to find an evidence of the past that is shrouded in mystery? Imagine the anticipation of decoding it to find out what message from the past it would bring. Imagine the person who created this piece hundreds of years ago, and now hundreds of years later, you are holding it in your hands, linking your life to his permanently.

Note to self- make sure date of return flight can be changed.

September 7, 2008

The Self- Pity Approach for a Compliment

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Remember in school, there is always this one kid who when asked after a big exam, would answer that he think he’d done badly because he had not studied, but (always) turned out to have the highest score in the class? And this kid became the ultimate bane in your existence because then you would think how could he not study and yet score better than I did?

Back then, I just simply hated kids like that because I busted my little ass to do well in exams and yet I could never beat their score. Back then, I wish I was a little bit smarter so I could get through the exams without studying much. Now, I hate this kind of people even more. Now, I realized what this kid wanted was actually something along the line of “Wow, you’re so smart! You didn’t study and yet you scored such a high mark!” You have to announce to the world how horrible you are, how stupid you are, how pitiful you are, to the point that you touch other people’s sympathetic side so that you can milk them for compliments that you KNOW you deserve.

It is a little unnerving that people do not leave this psychological habit behind in their childhood. I read in the papers today that Peter Crouch’s girlfriend, Abby Whats-her-name, called herself ‘a pasty beach whale’ and that ‘her legs looked fat or something’. Have you ever seen her pictures? Please Google ‘Peter Crouch’s girlfriend’ and see how smashing her body is. You can imagine the number of girls who have starved themselves to look like her.

Siena Miller has also been heard saying that she had a very low self-esteem as a teenager because of her body. Do you know what she did as a teenager? She was an underwear model! Low self-esteem indeed!

Are we supposed to feel sorry for them? How sad, even with their blonde hair, gorgeous face, big bank accounts, they are still like us, they are still not good enough. It breaks my heart to know that these women, despite the magazine covers and the photo shoots, are still not pretty enough. The world is so unfair!

I understand the need to hear something nice from your peers every now and again about yourself. I have been guilty of having used this self-pity approach to fish for a compliment, but at least I try to be sincere about it. I would honestly express my fear and insecurity to my close friends not to hear them say things that I know I am good at, but for assurances that only friends can provide. I think a lot of people have issues that beat them down and eat away their confidence, and it is only natural that we would lower ourselves than our expectations in the hope that someone close to us would give us that boost that we need very badly.

But to say things like, “I am fat” although you are a size 00, “I am stupid” although you score a 4.0 GPA, “I can never succeed” although you own millions from running a business… seriously, what do you need? What do you expect people to do or say? The nice ones would say the standard comforting phrases because it is expected although not sincerely meant, the realists (as I have often come to refer myself) would roll our eyes and, the nicer realists would point out how lucky you are compared to the rest of the world, whereas the meaner realists would tell you to stop whining like a baby.

As adults, don’t we have enough emotional maturity to know there are superficial things we shouldn’t lose sleep over? And shouldn’t we be mature enough not to play the self-pity card to get people to compliment us, to say something us for our own egotistical benefit?  Shouldn’t we be aware enough that what comes after such a self-pitying begging is nothing but a false compliment?

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